You're Not Enough (& That's Okay) Escaping the Toxic Culture of Self-Love

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If only we believed that we are “enough” just as we are, we're told, we could finally overcome anxiety, shame, and self-doubt. But,  if that were true, our generation—one obsessed with self-love, self-discovery and self-care—would be happier by now. As it turns out, self-love doesn't satisfy. But there's something else that does.

For decades, we’ve been taught that the key to happiness is self-love.

In Allie’s refreshingly honest trademark style, she addresses head-on the high cost of buying into the “cult of self-affirmation,” how committing to self-love is committing to selfishness, and why the solution to our problems and pain aren’t found in self-love, but in God’s love.

Speaker, commentator and host of Blaze TV’s podcast Relatable, allie beth stuckey brings us YOU’RE NOT ENOUGH (And That’s Okay): Escaping The Toxic Culture of Self-Love (Sentinel/Penguin Random House; on-sale August 11, 2020), a daring critique of our current cultural movement that instills in us the tempting yet dangerous idea that we must love ourselves before loving anyone else.

Meet the Author - Allie Beth Stuckey.

Allie candidly recounts the destructive repercussions she faced after falling prey to “you are enough” culture, and shows readers how to spot and combat its false teachings. YOU’RE NOT ENOUGH (And That’s Okay) uncovers five myths popularized by our culture of trendy narcissism, reveals where they manifest in politics and in the church, and dismantles them with the biblical truth and practical wisdom.

Myth #5: You can’t love others until you love yourself.

Myth #4: You’re entitled to your dreams.

Myth #3: You’re perfect the way you are.

Myth #2: You determine your truth

Myth #1: You are enough.

myths to stop believing:

Nancy R. Pearcey, author of Total Truth and Love Thy Body

"With gentle persistence, Stuckey points readers to God's unchanging truths to liberate us from our culture's false road maps to life--and her openness about her personal pain and difficulties gives the book the feel of a heart-to-heart conversation. This is the book I wish I had when I was a young adult."

Charlotte Pence Bond, author of Best Christmas Ever and daughter of Vice President Mike Pence

"Like a good friend who tells you the hard truth, Allie challenges and encourages readers on every page of this book--and that truth will set you free."

Melanie Luttrell, Philanthropist at Team Never Quit and wife to Marcus Luttrell

"Women today feel as though they are constantly being judged--whether by their peers, their followers on social media, or themselves. In this book, Allie Beth Stuckey cuts through our self-obsessed climate and reminds us to focus on how Jesus sees us instead of how other people do."

Hillary Morgan Ferrer, founder of Mama Bear Apologetics and coauthor of Mama Bear Apologetics

"Refreshingly vulnerable and graciously nuanced, Allie Beth Stuckey distinguishes healthy and Biblical self-care from our culture's obsession with idolatrous self-worship."

Costi Hinn, pastor and author of God, Greed, and the (Prosperity) Gospel

"This book is a sobering dose of reality in our self-centered culture. If you want to get rid of the unhelpful pride and entitlement that is keeping you from living with genuine purpose, read Allie's words and put them into practice."

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The interminable quest for self-improvement ends now. 

YOU’RE NOT ENOUGH (And That’s Okay) is not about battling your not-enoughness; it’s about embracing it.